Depression loves to beat us up, and our past "mistakes" are its never-ending punches.💙

But if you did the best you could with the skills you had at the time, that was good enough. 💙

This is a really hard concept to grasp for a lot of people who are depressed, because they can often see things in "black and white", and if they made a mistake in the past, it can haunt them. They can't take the imaginary position of themselves in the past and see that they simply didn't have the skills needed to avoid the "mistake", whatever it was, so they beat themselves up for it, over and over.💙

But, if we take take the argument to its absurd logical conclusion, that would mean children, infants and toddlers were responsible for their mistakes, which is obviously absurd. We give leeway to children to make mistakes and learn from them. Adults should be afforded the same leeway too. You cannot know beforehand what you don't know. 💙

The answer, is to generate and use self-compassion. It's ok to not know everything. It's ok to make mistakes. The important part is to learn from them. 💙